Is the saying 'nice guys finish last' always true? Woman for the past couple of centuries have been rallying for equal rights, standing behind the shield of feminism but if you look at the many relationships out there, why do they always fall for the bad guys? You have guys who abuse their wives, guys who are chronic cheaters, guys who treat their girlfriends extremely shabbily and yet, they always have a woman by their side. On the other hand, there are guys who are sweet and loving, who can cook, who can actually carry on an intellectual conversation past the chitchat into science, religion, politics and yet they're... womanless.
Why are woman attracted to the bad boys? Is it because they're so ingrained into that relationship, they can't let go and take a chance at finding something actually good and lasting? Or is it that they're drawn to the aura of evilness, like an adventure ride of sorts, like moths to a flame? And for those who _are_ in a loving relationship with a good man, do they secretly yearn for the thrill of something different?
As mammals, we're not exactly wired to be monogamous and yet that's what our culture has evolved to. I wonder how many are unsatisfied, unhappy, uncontent. Is this what leads to infidelity? In a case study I was reading on the mating and reproductive success of unokais (killers) vs non-unokais among Yanomamo men, it was found that the unokais were more successful. Of course one can't really draw a causal relationship from this since Yanomamo are a pre-modern population of people who valued ferocity and manliness. However, it did get me thinking, perhaps as woman, we may say we want the soft,tender, loving man who'll stay home and help take care of the kids when in fact, evolutionarily, our biological genes fall for the hunter, the guy who's a super macho and thinks he's all that and more.
And I'm just ending it here because this has been a messy entry and I don't know what I'm really getting at.
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